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“We, human beings, are beings of this earth, caring for the Mother Earth is what we have to do; just like we nurture our self.”

These are trying times and each one of us is making an effort to adjust and cope up with this situation. It can be hard on some of us and it could be the best time for a few of us. Either way, let us attempt to turn it into a rewarding time of our life.

What is self-love?

In simple words, it can be defined as the love, care and respect that you have for yourself; a sense of love, a sense of belonging and acceptance. Many a time, we feel that happiness is all about loving someone, your parents, spouse, children, friends or pets and we forget about ourselves. You have no idea about the magnanimity of happiness you will feel when you start loving yourself. So, the question that arises is – is it so difficult to love yourself?

My answer to the question is ‘yes’. It is indeed difficult to love and accept yourself. If you feel the other way round then, congratulations! You are one of the most amazing people.

Have you ever belittled yourself? Have you made statements like “something is always wrong with me” “I always make mistakes” “I am way too thin or way too fat” “I’m not attractive” “I’m a people repeller”? If yes, then welcome to learning about self-love. I have no qualms in saying that I have made many such statements about myself. Trust me, it has taken a very long time to imbibe the concept of self-love. The bright side is that it isn’t impossible!

I will be sharing a few tips and some great books on self-love and in turn, develop your confidence as well. It is very difficult to feel confident if you don’t love yourself.

Tips

Stop making negative remarks about yourself The world will never leave any stone unturned in doing it. So, why add to it? Stop criticizing yourself. How much ever you feel like making a hurtful comment about yourself, avoid it. Think of all your positives.

Start meditating By meditating, I am not asking you to sever all your ties, don a piece of cloth and retire to the Himalayas. Just spend 10 to 15 minutes daily and meditate. Choose your convenient time and place, meditate and bask in the feeling of peace. It is a wonderful feeling and you get some perspective on things as well. You can plug in your headphones, log on to YouTube, and just listen to any guided meditation. It is a great idea for beginners as you just need to listen to the voice and follow the instructions.

Love and accept yourself This is tough but, this will yield remarkable results. Stand in front of the mirror every day for at least 5 minutes, look into your eyes and repeat the sentence – ‘I love and accept you the way you are.’ It may sound funny, you may feel conscious and you may not even relate to the sentence but do it. Do it for 21 days and see how you start perceiving yourself differently. I can assure you that you will start noticing a difference from the 10th day.

If you are a book junkie, then there is a huge range of books on self-love. I’m listing out my top 5 favourites. Take your pick and read away.

You can Heal your Life by Louise Hay
The Power is within You by Louse Hay
Start where you are by Meera Lee Patel
A course in Miracles made easy by Alan Cohen
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

All the books are extremely positive, motivating and can boost your self-confidence by leaps and bounds. Try one or all of these techniques, drop a line and let us know how it worked for you.