
The body remembers what the mind forgets. Some medical conditions like VAGINISMUS show how our thoughts and beliefs can manifest in our physical functioning and linger like an invisible wound.
Almost three out of five women have experienced painful sex (we are talking about penetrative sex) at some point in their lives, be it through a simple lack of desire or arousal or a gynecological condition. The problem is usually temporary and can be fixed easily.
For some individuals, trying to put something like a penis, sex toy, or even a tampon inside can hurt a lot and keep hurting for a while. And it leads many people to avoid penetration altogether.
If you can relate or have ever experienced what feels like your vagina got inspired by a Venus flytrap and supposedly imitated it, that is an uncontrollable tightening of the vagina that made the penetration difficult, you might want to learn more about vaginismus.
What is Vaginismus?
Vaginismus is when the muscles near the entrance of the vagina tighten up suddenly when something tries to go inside, like a penis, sex toy, or tampon. It happens without meaning to and can make it really hurt or even impossible to have penetration, especially if it’s your first time having sex.
Do I have vaginismus?
If you think you might have the condition, here are the follow-ups:
⮚ STOP having SEX!
“If you’re having painful sex, STOP, this may sound like a simple message. But so many women are having painful sex, and they think [it’s] just life,” But it’s not, and you don’t have to continue experiencing it.
⮚ Seek support
To start getting help, go see your gynecologist or doctor. They might want to check you to make sure there aren’t other reasons for what’s happening.
⮚ Prepare yourself to advocate
Many women out there are either dismissed or under-diagnosed. It’s critical to advocate for yourself if you’re dealing with sexual pain, even if it means seeing a few different healthcare providers, you need an accurate diagnosis, so don’t take no for an answer.
For anyone with vaginismus, “Be patient with yourself. There isn’t just one quick solution, but there are many ways to help. It might take some time and trying different medications or treatments, but you can find relief with the right combination that works for you.”

Shared by: Vaishnavi Rastogi,
Author’s bio:
Hello, I’m Vaishnavi, passionate about exploring and writing on lesser-known aspects of women’s health. I delve into topics often overlooked, aiming to shed light and create awareness. With a keen interest in diverse health issues, I strive to empower women through knowledge and discussion.