What is it?
No it’s not alimony recovery services, if you were thinking so.
Recovering from a Divorce is what we are talking here.
Do you know someone going through a Divorce or Separation? Then this article will be of help to them.
A divorce lawyer gives a person a legal opinion. A financial planner gives a financial recommendation. But is one in a right mental and emotional state to take those big decisions of their life? That’s where a Divorce Recovery Coach ( DRC) comes into picture.
WHO is a DRC?
A Divorce Recovery Coach is a professional who offers emotional support and mental well-being services, coaching & mentoring around the journey of Divorce along with all the information one may need to walk this path. They works closely with the Divorce Advocates and Financial planners if needed. It is a stressful period in someone’s life, and a Divorce Recovery Coach can help them ensure they make wise decisions.
WHAT is in DR Coaching?
Divorce Recovery Coaching is a flexible, end-objective driven approach, designed to guide, motivate, and support people going through divorce to empower them to make best choices of their current situation and redesign their future consciously, wisely.
Based on their particular interests and concerns, the approach is extremely centralized and customized to their need.
The Coaching is eligible in all the 4 stages of a divorce process:
1. Pre-Divorce
2. Separation phase
3. During the Divorce
4. Post Divorce
Each of these stages has some exclusive and some overlapping set of emotions that need to be worked upon. The interaction & complexity of emotions along with situational background makes it a prime reason for these sessions to be personal and private. The intricacy is further deepened when a child is involved.
A few reasons why people chose to work with a DRC:
· DRC helps a person find the core reason of their distress and touch-base with their underlying fears to resolve them.
· DRC helps one understand the importance of Self care, Self Love especially when you feel empty, feel alone. Whether it’s taking time to relax or looking after one’s health or identifying passions.
· DRC help you arrive at a reasonable financial agreement. It is easy to get carried away with emotions running high.
· DRC help one settle post-divorce issues, including parenting, feeling anxiety, loneliness, guilt, frustration, lack of self worth… rebuilding one’s life, dating and moving on after divorce.
· DRC help the entire family focus on the future. The relationship may have ended but one may be tied together forever with their ex-partner if they have children. It’s important for the family can consciously move forward.
· DRC assists a person to communicate with clarity & confidence, without the haze of intense emotions clouding their perception.
· DRC saves a person’s valuable resources: time, intent and money. The longer one spends arguing about arrangements for the children or finances, the more lawyers may bill you. These costs escalate quickly, but a DRC can help you close an agreement quickly and fairly.
With a 50% increase in divorces post covid, it is an issue we can no longer afford to push under the carpet. The need of the hour in this society today, is to address the two Social Stigma around Divorce and Mental Health together and openly. It’s high time to normalize divorce in the society, without making the people involved feel guilty, ashamed or disgraceful about it. A Divorce needs to be viewed as a respected option out of an abusive marriage and not as taboo.
If you know someone going through a difficult phase like this one, please lend them a non-judgmental ear, a safe space where they can open up their inner most feelings or guide them to a professional empathetically.
Summarizing it, we need as many GOOD LISENTERS today as we need GOOD SPEAKERS.
Shared by : Punita Lakhani
Author’s bio: Punita is India’s first Divorce Recovery Coach, working under the name of Modern Meerabai. She is the Karnataka State Council member for Psychological Wellbeing at WICCI and lives in Bangalore.
