“94% of the time, the way a discussion starts determines the way it will end.” – Dr. John Gottman
Love often encompasses acceptance, as it involves embracing someone with their strengths and weaknesses. True love is accepting someone unconditionally, which means loving them despite their imperfections. We all want a fairytale, smooth marriage/relationship with our partner but are we really understanding and accepting the truth? Are we putting effort every day to rebuild the emotional stability and assurance required to sail on? Have we ever realized and accepted that we are also wrong somewhere? Has the truth about our relationship been unleashed?
Acceptance is about valuing your partner’s differences. It’s about being flexible, tolerant, and open-minded. It’s also about knowing how to compromise, understanding that we all make mistakes, and being ready to forgive. Acceptance doesn’t mean always agreeing with your partner – it’s OK to agree to disagree. Acceptance is not slavery or an act of weakness.
Accept love as they can give it to you. Accept that you love them. Accept that we all experience things (including love) differently. Accept that sometimes they can be a bit of a mess.
Acceptance helps to keep your relationship healthy, leading you towards greater intimacy and care for each other. When you and your partner feel accepted, you are more willing to listen to and understand each other’s perspectives and suggestions.
However, one must not accept behaviours such as physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, manipulation, control, lying, disrespecting boundaries, ignoring, or invalidating feelings, belittling, or demeaning, and refusing to take responsibility for one’s actions.
One must learn to accept differences in a relationship. Below are a few best practices which enable couples to rebuild emotional stability. Always remember to be at peace, the soul needs to be contented and not questioned. Wherever we would focus our attention will grow. Be mindful about it.
· Treat your partner with utmost respect, love, and care. Treat others as you would want to be treated. No one would be standing for you the way your spouse/partner does. So, always ensure they are your top priority. Never ignore or demean them.
· Accept your partner’s flaws and embrace their strengths. No one is perfect! Acknowledge your partner’s strengths and what they bring to the table. Respect your partner’s beliefs and value their opinions, even if they are different from yours. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and values. It is okay to agree to disagree. You create a character sketch of your partner to understand them better. To realize their strength and weakness.
· Understand your partner’s story, experiences, motivations, and intentions. Understand what unique life experiences have guided your partner’s decisions and maintain a steady foundation of trust they will do the right thing. You can try writing your journey from a third person’s point of view. You will realize in that narration that both of you were at fault some or the other time and you both must work along to sail on.
· The past doesn’t define everything. People make mistakes. Don’t judge your partner based on their past. Focus on who they are now and who they are growing to be. Be patient. Long-term growth and maturity take time. Guide your partner towards success. If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love.
· Acknowledge your partner’s growth and success. Knowing your partner’s past and personal struggles, be proud of the growth they have achieved!
Tripping over the truth is one type of moment of insight that “delivers realizations and transformations in people’s lives.” While this may sound harsh, a moment of insight is “a low point that holds the promise of a better future path.
Acceptance and emotional stability are key components of a long-lasting relationship. Wishing all my readers a happy and blissful life!
“I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect, and I loved you even more.” – Angelita Lim
Shared by: Abhrekha Jain Sahlot
Author’s bio:
Abhrekha Jain Sahlot, the name is a derivative of her parent’s name ( Abhay & Rekha). She is full of life, energy, and enthusiasm. A gold-medalist computer engineer she has been working with top MNCs for over 17 years now. A doting mother of 2 boys ( NABHANYU & Daksh Sahlot), life has given her various opportunities to explore and she seems to have taken the best of everything. From singing, and painting to acting, swimming, and basketball, she has been into various co-curricular activities from artistic ones to sports ones. However, currently, she enjoys sharing her blessings with fellow women by addressing women and parenting forums and helping women in her capacity and spreading messages & the importance of being happy & content
