We live in a world that is constantly filled with posts, reels, and updates on social media. I often see people surrounded by others, their happy faces shining through. It seems like the concept of solitude is rare for them.
However, what most people fail to understand is that it is possible to be alone without feeling lonely. Throughout my four decades of life, I have experienced this phase. This journey has taught me the importance of self-connection. I have been physically alone, but never unhappy.
While I do enjoy social gatherings, I also seek out quiet places where I can be alone with my thoughts. Whether it’s the corners of libraries or the serenity of nature, these are the places where I find solace.
One significant moment in my journey occurred when I moved to a new city (Ahmedabad), far away from the familiar faces of my city ( Hyderabad). For the first time, I truly felt lonely. However, I saw this as an opportunity. I explored the city, discovering parks, historical monuments, and local eateries. I immersed myself in the vibrant arts and culture scene, attending concerts and book readings.
As I spent more time alone, I realized that I could be my own best company. I learned to cherish the moments when I could simply be with myself, free from the distractions of others. It was during these moments that I could reflect, dream, and grow. Writing became my outlet, allowing me to express my innermost thoughts and emotions. Through writing, I began to understand the depth of my feelings and desires.
There came a point when I longed for human connection, to share my thoughts and experiences with others. However, I soon realized that loneliness was not a result of being alone; it was the absence of meaningful conversations. With this realization, I made an effort to reach out to old friends and make new ones. My newfound self-confidence made it easier to relate to people and be vulnerable with them. It was in these moments of genuine connection that I truly understood the power of human interaction. I cherished my solitude even more, as it allowed me to approach relationships from a place of strength and authenticity.
From Romila Chitturi Instagram - @thenovemberschild
